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penfieldPicture this:
It is February 14, 2005. Alex is to meet Sandy for dinner. Alex and Sandy had dated briefly during the previous spring, broke up unceremoniously and just started talking again. Each person still has feelings for the other, but these feelings have not been outwardly -- or even inwardly -- expressed.
They are set to meet at 6:00 at a local sandwich shop, the same sandwich shop where they spent their previous Valentine's Day, when they were in a similar dating-not-dating gray area.
At the same time, across town, at a semi-casual restaurant near Alex's apartment, Alex's friend Chris is dining with Pat. Alex used to have a pretty big crush on Chris, but they're just friends now. Chris, who doesn't know Sandy, wants to set up Alex and Pat on a blind date, a suggestion by which Alex has been cautiously intrigued. The day before, Chris told Alex that they (Chris and Pat) would be getting appetizers at semi-casual restaurant at 7:30, and Alex was welcome to join them.
"I have plans for dinner," Alex says, "but maybe I'll be able to stop by."
So Alex and Sandy meet for dinner and have a grand old time, sitting and talking flirtatiously -- though not necessarily romantically -- for two hours. Alex never mentions Chris or Pat, not just because Alex is starting to feel those old squishy feelings for Sandy, but also because Alex is waiting for Sandy to suggest continued activities for the evening. However, it being Valentines Day and them just beginning to be comfortable with each other again, such an invitation is not tendered. So, with a hug, they go their separate ways.
On the way home, Alex peeks inside semi-casual restaurant and sees Chris in the back with Pat. Alex decides to visit for a while and be introduced. Chris and Pat are almost done with their appetizers, but the three of them sit and chat for about a half-hour. Alex is bored the whole time, and isn't interested in Pat at all. Sorry, Pat.
By 9:00, Alex is home, watching "24."
Within months, Alex and Sandy begin dating again, for real this time, and things are going good. One day, Alex muses aloud about how Chris wanted to set Alex up with Pat. Sandy is angry and hurt.
Sandy says that Alex's Valentine's Day activites amount to lying, conniving and generally weaselly behavior, especially because Valentine's Day carries a certain implication of monogamy. Alex says that no rules were broken, since no "dating" occurred at any time, and in any case the truth was withheld because Alex really wanted to spend more time with Sandy.
I ask you, dear reader: who is right, and why?
It is February 14, 2005. Alex is to meet Sandy for dinner. Alex and Sandy had dated briefly during the previous spring, broke up unceremoniously and just started talking again. Each person still has feelings for the other, but these feelings have not been outwardly -- or even inwardly -- expressed.
They are set to meet at 6:00 at a local sandwich shop, the same sandwich shop where they spent their previous Valentine's Day, when they were in a similar dating-not-dating gray area.
At the same time, across town, at a semi-casual restaurant near Alex's apartment, Alex's friend Chris is dining with Pat. Alex used to have a pretty big crush on Chris, but they're just friends now. Chris, who doesn't know Sandy, wants to set up Alex and Pat on a blind date, a suggestion by which Alex has been cautiously intrigued. The day before, Chris told Alex that they (Chris and Pat) would be getting appetizers at semi-casual restaurant at 7:30, and Alex was welcome to join them.
"I have plans for dinner," Alex says, "but maybe I'll be able to stop by."
So Alex and Sandy meet for dinner and have a grand old time, sitting and talking flirtatiously -- though not necessarily romantically -- for two hours. Alex never mentions Chris or Pat, not just because Alex is starting to feel those old squishy feelings for Sandy, but also because Alex is waiting for Sandy to suggest continued activities for the evening. However, it being Valentines Day and them just beginning to be comfortable with each other again, such an invitation is not tendered. So, with a hug, they go their separate ways.
On the way home, Alex peeks inside semi-casual restaurant and sees Chris in the back with Pat. Alex decides to visit for a while and be introduced. Chris and Pat are almost done with their appetizers, but the three of them sit and chat for about a half-hour. Alex is bored the whole time, and isn't interested in Pat at all. Sorry, Pat.
By 9:00, Alex is home, watching "24."
Within months, Alex and Sandy begin dating again, for real this time, and things are going good. One day, Alex muses aloud about how Chris wanted to set Alex up with Pat. Sandy is angry and hurt.
Sandy says that Alex's Valentine's Day activites amount to lying, conniving and generally weaselly behavior, especially because Valentine's Day carries a certain implication of monogamy. Alex says that no rules were broken, since no "dating" occurred at any time, and in any case the truth was withheld because Alex really wanted to spend more time with Sandy.
I ask you, dear reader: who is right, and why?
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